“And we know that God causes everything to work together for the good of those who love God and are called according to his purpose for them.”

How many times has someone quoted this scripture to try to bring you comfort during what probably felt like the worst time of your life?

I’ve heard it a lot and I’ve also said it to others a lot.

Truthfully, it’s one of my favorite scriptures, because I constantly must remind myself that it doesn’t matter how things may look or feel, God can still bring some good out of a bad situation.

But if we’re being honest, it can be extremely hard to hold on to this promise in the middle of your darkest seasons.

This past year, I found myself in the valley numerous times and it was beginning to get to the point where I was like “what in the world is going on?” Sometimes we really believe if we’re living for God and doing what He calls us to do that life should be easy, breezy, but that is far from the truth.

In fact, sometimes life can feel like it gets worse when you decide to start living God’s way.

It wasn’t until I recently heard someone speak about God trusting you with “a burden,” that my perspective started to change.

All of us have had a burden that weighs on us, a cross to bear, a pain we wouldn’t have chosen, but have you ever stopped to wonder “why me, God?” Like really stopped and thought why God allowed you to go through the divorce or the multiple miscarriages or the betrayal or the homelessness?

God doesn’t cause these things, but He does seem to allow certain things to happen to certain people.

I recently began to seek understanding after having went through a divorce, remarrying my ex-husband and being on the verge of divorce again. Of course, God gave me much clarity on the role I played in my own suffering, but He also opened my eyes to why He wasn’t releasing me from this marriage as quickly as I would have liked.

God has been trying to pull something out of me for years. You see I have a heart for families, and it makes me mad to see how the devil has been destroying families left and right. I hate to see people be emotionally abused and manipulated in relationships. I hate to see people play a part in tearing apart their own families, yet no one seems to want to do the work to save their families. I am tired of generational curses running rampant in our homes, while we sit idly by scrolling on our phones.

Now I understand “why me, God?” God knew if I sat in my own mess long enough, I would get to the point where I would say enough is enough. Come hell or high water, I will do my part to help save families. I will do what God has been calling me to for years and I will help other people get free so they can do what they have been called to do.

Divorce sucks. Losing children sucks. Being on the street sucks. Being abused sucks.

There are a lot of things in this world that sucks and if you’ve experienced something that has caused you tremendous pain, I am so sorry you went through that. I wish none of us had to experience pain, but since we live in a world filled with sin, pain is a natural consequence. So, what are we going to do with the pain that we have experienced?

I choose to take my pain that I’ve done the work to be healed from and do all that I can to help others heal. People always like to say hurt people hurt people, well for 2023 we’re all about healed people help heal people over here.

So, the next time you start to say, “why me, God?” I want you to shift your perspective and ask, “why not me, God?”